I can be talkative at times. But I have trouble speaking up. I hadn’t really thought about how different those two things can be until I observed that I tend to opt for silence when I’m unsure about the things I’m about to say. I didn’t like to sound stupid or to be that only person in a room that has a different take on things. I didn’t want to invite attention to myself lest it will put me in trouble. I may have felt safe in my silence. But it didn’t make me happy. In fact, I’ve discovered that being quiet about the things that matter to me made me miserable.
Over the years, I learned that silence is powerful only if the situation calls for it. But it can be a problem when effectively communicating my views can potentially make a positive influence. I’m learning to allow myself to be heard, if needed. I figured that I have something to contribute as much as everyone else. I realized that no matter how difficult it may seem, finding your voice and using it to speak up can equally be powerful as silence. Here are some of the inspiring videos I’ve seen about topics that encourage people to share their truths:
Clint Smith: The danger of silence
“Read critically. Write consciously. Speak clearly. Tell your truth.”
This short video shows how choosing to be silent is not always a good thing. It made me think that silence can make me part of a problem. It is like a tacit approval on what people may be doing that go against my beliefs and values. By not speaking up, I’m empowering abuse and injustice that I may be a witness to.
Saying the Hard Things: The Power of Speaking Up | Amanda Springob
Just imagine how many problems we can prevent if only we’re brave enough to say the hard things. But not many people go down that road. This is why groupthink exists. It feels more comfortable and safer to just agree with what everyone else is saying. Going with the flow doesn’t require much energy. Not many people want to be that person who’d speak up about the toughest things to say. But it might just be what’s needed to avoid problems.
Susan Cain: The power of introverts
As an introvert, I really don’t like being on the spotlight. I work best behind the scenes and as far away as possible from prying eyes. But being quiet has its own power as this video shows. It’s a matter of harnessing the unique qualities that make us introverts different and tap on that to achieve the results we want.