When you hear the word “tools” what comes to your mind first? Gardening tools? Handyman tools? Cleaning tools? Depending on your profession, you might think of tools as the equipment related to your usual routine. You’ll more or less think about physical tools like the ones sold online and not abstract tools.
A lot of you might not know this, but even the aspect personal development has its essential tools. They refer to the things you should do to grow and live fully. So what are they?
This might sound easy, but it’s hard to execute. Knowing yourself means knowing where you’re good at, what your goals are, what your weaknesses are, what your personality is, what you love and abhor, what your values are, what inspires you, so on and so forth. The truth is this tool involves a long process. It’s even believed that everyone experiences a quarter-life crisis, which is unavoidable. Perhaps the first thing you can do is know your personality by taking a test such as the DISC personality test. You can also take a temperament test to know how you react to situations. Then, list down your values and beliefs which can serve as your guide to everyday living. When thinking about goals, maybe you could start with what you’re good at and where you want to be good at. Just remember to take it easy. Bear in mind that getting to know yourself is just like getting to know others—it takes time.
Live with a Passion
What do you want to do in life? Do you want to keep doing what you’re currently doing? What activities do you find empowering? There are things we do that allow us to pour out our hearts and minds. Find those activities. If you love caring for the elderly, take the time to do so. If you love teaching kids but you’re not a teacher, set a schedule and a location, then invite the children from your neighborhood. Living with passion is possible; you just have to find whatever it is that makes you feel more alive.
The previous tools help develop your interaction with others. To communicate better with others, you must first learn to communicate with yourself just like what you do before you decide. Another way to improve your interpersonal communication skills is to pay attention to how people deliver their message as well as their body language. Don’t be afraid to open up; having a fellowship with others can help you grow as a person. Remember, no man is an island.
Learn how to handle stressful situations by channeling your anger or frustration to an active recreation such as running, painting, and woodworking. If you know how to control your negative emotions, you will be relieved of stress, and once you are, you’ll sleep and live better. Remember, it won’t pain you to take deep breaths. After all, life is too short to live with stress.